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Monday, 24 June 2013

What is it about romance?

"Well, it was a million tiny little things that, when you added them all up, they meant we were suppose to be together... and I knew it. I knew it the very first time I touched her. It was like coming home... only to no home I'd ever known... I was just taking her hand to to help her out of a car and I knew. It was like... magic."

- Sam Baldwin (Tom Hanks, Sleepless in Seattle)

That has to be one of the most romantic lines I have ever heard. <3

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What is it about romance? The movies and the novels, songs, poems etc what is it that makes - and I'm going to say - most women - because some women aren't in to it - crave it so much? Is it the fate factor? Is it the idea of someone loving you so passionately, intensely that it doesn't even make sense, but it feels right? Is it the idea that two people can be made for one another; that they are here on earth to find one another?

I sat down and watched "Sleepless in Seattle" yesterday. It was the first time I managed to watch the film from the very beginning to the end, because in the past I have missed the beginning or half of the movie and only caught the tail end.

It's a good movie, and the main reason is because despite it being a romance, and yes, I suppose a chick film, Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan spend most of the movie apart. We weren't watching two people falling in love, we were a woman who didn't believe in fate following a connection which blossomed within her for someone who did believe in fate.

Do you believe in fate?

I always have, but not in the sense that I feel we have no control over our lives. I have always viewed life (fate) as a giant road map. Every route, pit stop, hitch hiker etc is planned out, but it is up to us which route we want to take. The inevitable destination is of course death. We're all heading that way no matter what, but I believe we choose our paths, but if there is something we have to do, if there is someone we have to meet, we will, no matter what.

Is that a romantic idea?


At the beginning of Sleepless in Seattle, Meg Ryan's mother is asking her how she and her fiancée met, and when Meg finishes explaining her mother states that it was "fate," to which Meg replies that there is "no such thing as fate. It was an accident." (or something along those lines.) She goes on to state that life is full of coincidences.

I for one refuse to believe that. I don't believe in coincidence because by definition that does mean an accident, which would mean everything in life from the smallest details to the massive world events are just random, there is no pattern or design. Although, I respect peoples views, and if people want to believe that, fine, but I can't believe that. I refuse to believe that everything that happens to us in life is an accident.

Now, I know that in the film, Meg goes through a phase of uncertainty in which she questions her beliefs in love and fate. She actually tests fate. Whereas Tom states that if he is suppose to be with someone he will just know. The line used by many in the film when talking about the moment they knew they were suppose to be with that particular person was "It was magic."

But if Meg hadn't turned the radio on and been intrigued by the son calling a radio shrink, and then felt that connection when Tom was speaking, well, she would have been none the wiser. You see, it's small things like that; turning the radio on, deciding to walk a different route home after work one day, simple things can change your life without you even realizing it.

Although my romantic life hasn't been fabulous I like the idea that there is someone out there for me; that there is someone who I will connect with in such a way that it almost seems crazy.

Do I honestly believe that? Yes. Do I think I will ever meet such a person, my soul mate or twin-flame as people do like to say? Yes. I have no idea when, but I believe it. I just have to wait and see. What is meant to be will be, and there is a time and place for everything. Am I a romantic? Definitely.

You see, I think women like romance so much because it is . . . magic. Love is powerful.

So, do you believe in fate? Do you believe in soul mates? Do you believe that everything happens for a reason? Or do you believe that life is one string of coincidences?


  1. Great post! I am a romantic at heart, although I have a realist's head - oh, what an annoying combination :s

    I don't actually believe there is just one person for everyone though - I believe that you can fall in love with many people and love them just as strongly as each other, and that they all teach you different things and you teach them different things. Life is rich and so full of variety :) xxx

    1. I think it is a wise combination to have. I for one have grown up around people who haven't had a lot of luck in love. So, although I am a romantic, I remain cautious and grounded in regards to relationships.

      I agree with you. I think everyone in our life plays a part. Each relationship we have is meant to be because we are supposed to learn something from that person and grow from it.

      Let's say, I believe that there is a small variety of people who could be good for you in a way and be very compatible. That is my logically side. My romantic/gooey side likes the idea that there is one person who completes you in a way that no one else can.

      A girl can't completely ignore all her childhood, fairytale fantasies. :-P xxx